I’ve had the awesome opportunity to work with a variety of people. And, the more I do this work, the more I find myself helping others sort through the difficulty of subtle shit. You know what I mean. I’m talking about the stuff that seems small, but really bothers you and gets under your skin. Because that’s what makes it shitty-the fact that it is subtle. We usually know how to get ourselves to therapy when it’s the big stuff. And I’m here for that, too. But, we tend to question ourselves and doubt if we really have a point–if our feelings are valid given the subtle nature of the issue. And by subtle, I mean normalized, expected, common, or livable. We think we shouldn’t complain. And then the resentment kicks in, and before we know it we are escaping with alcohol or TV or whatever else distracts us temporarily. Years pass by, and you may start to wonder how you got here. You might not even recognize yourself anymore.
Well, I’m here to reacquaint you with your real self. I’m here to help you reclaim whatever needs reclaiming. I’m here to acknowledge that your subtle shit is a Big Deal. If it bothers you, then it's worth exploring. I will help you sort it out. No feeling is invalid. No pace too slow. No topic is too embarrassing. There’s a lot of shame, insecurity, and guilt around the subtle shit. We think: Maybe I should just be grateful. Maybe I should refocus on my kids, house, or hobby. Maybe I’m crazy. Maybe I shouldn’t wish for better treatment from others. Maybe this is what I deserve.
Let me make it clear that there is no grand prize for suffering. No one wins.
There is no extra gold star for suffering quietly. The goal is not to be miserable. There is no contest to see who can suffer the most. That doesn’t exist, okay? Because why would we get a pat on the back for staying miserable and faking it? That’s messed up, and you know it. Brainwashing, if you will. What would be the point in life?
We have voices, feelings, brains, bodies, and hearts for a reason. They are like companions guiding and advocating for our well being. That is the point! To listen in, and to follow your intuition. Where else would be the source of your fullest potential? We are happiest when we are living our truth and most authentic life!
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